Only if it is done wrong. And I teach you how to do it oh-so-right.

First of all, there is nothing wrong with being bisexual or gay! Heck, I’m bi! Yay, queers! That said, are you attracted to men? Then sure, you may be bi or gay.  Not attracted to men, but just want a cock in your ass or mouth? Want the person to be putting the cock in your ass to be a woman only? You’re probably not bi or gay.  Also, transsexual (TS) women are women who have cocks. Wanting to be fucked by a trans woman doesn’t make you less straight, just more kinky….unless you want to call yourself gay or bi, in which case, I’m not going to tell you how to identify!

For the most part, they are the same.  Other than in the context of long-term chastity play, milking is mainly just domme-speak for prostate massage and alludes to the fact that, for some men, prostate massage can cause some fluid (often only a few drops) to come out of your cock without orgasm.  Prostate massage is the male version of manually stimulating the female G-spot. In fact, some people call the prostate the “male G-spot” or the “P-spot.” Others know it as the spot that, when stimulated, makes a pleasurable tingling sensation go all the way through their cock. Not everyone responds to prostate stimulation in the same way. Some people enjoy light prostate stimulation, some enjoy very firm pressure, others find contact to be painful, and yet others only feel like they have to pee.

Can you?  Some men can, but is it really that important a goal, when you might have a much more intense orgasm as a combination of prostate and cock stimulation?

I can help you discover what does feel pleasurable to you. You can still enjoy anal play because of the abundance of sensitive nerves in and around your asshole. Some people like feeling full or stretched, some enjoy the sensation of something moving in-and-out of their ass, and others like primarily external stimulation like stroking, licking (I don’t do this with you!), or vibration. For many people, the eroticism results from the psychological aspect of being penetrated or playing with a previously off-limits part of their body.

Also, sexual pleasure isn’t the only potential benefit of becoming acquainted with your ass.  Anal massage for relaxation, ie pelvic release massage, is amazing on so many levels.  It is deeply relaxing because it taps directly in to the part of your nervous system that controls the slowing down of your breathing and heart rate.  Treating the anal sphincter muscles like regular muscles that carry tension and emotions is crucial to releasing thoughts, feelings, and pressure that has built up over your whole lifetime.  It is also possible to stretch out your hips and relieve back or sciatic nerve pain.  See?  Lots of benefits to anal massage!

Tristan Taormino (the anal sex guru) addresses this question very well, so I will direct you to her comments. She explains how, when, and why to do an enema as well as why, depending on the consistency of your shit, you probably don’t need to do any kind of internal cleansing.

Her short answer is “if you have a bowel movement before you have anal sex, there should only be trace amounts of fecal matter in the rectum[…]provided that you are a relatively healthy person with a good diet, normal bowel habits, and no gastrointestinal problems.”

I would like to add that unless you have plenty of time to do an enema 2-3 hours before playing AND you already have experience with them, don’t try to clean internally before anal play…The result is usually more of a mess, not less. If you absolutely insist, PLEASE follow Tristan’s directions, not the directions on the box!!!!

Asses are a way to access tremendous pleasure that isn’t inherently dominant or submissive. Being penetrated only makes you submissive if you see it that way.  I certainly don’t feel submissive when I get penetrated! If it’s important to you to stay in a dominant mindset, you can interpret your partner’s confidence the same way you would the confidence of a talented massage therapist; they just happen to be skillfully massaging your prostate. For an anal play experience, you are not required to be in a “submissive” body position, and your partner doesn’t have to use a cock. All it takes is one finger for you to experience something amazing.

Regarding body position, I’ve had some amazing experiences where a dominant partner has ridden my strap-on while choking me and slapping my face….I felt deliciously submissive and he enjoyed staying dominant while receiving anal penetration.

If we haven’t met before, you can fill out the form on my Contact page or send me email. I will respond with an intake questionnaire for you to fill out, to elaborate on your sexual history, experience with mindfulness practices, and educational interests.  After you return that to me, we will talk by phone to make sure we are a good fit for meeting and schedule a session.

Have we met before?  You can send me email or, If you still have my phone number, you can call me.  If you’re hoping to meet up with me while I’m traveling and want to make sure I have specific equipment with me when I visit your city, you must schedule at least a week in advance of my visit and provide a deposit.

I am not an escort, domme, FBSM, or strap-on play provider.  I am a somatic sex educator, following the sexological bodywork code of ethics which means that:

[I am] conscious and make … students conscious that while we share authentic intimacy, Sexological Bodywork sessions will neither fulfill [my], nor [my] students desire for sexual connection. … I remain clothed when touching … students and touching is unidirectional. I request that …  students bring their partners when they wish to learn interpersonal erotic skills.”

Strap-on play is a form of sexual connection, an interpersonal erotic skill that I can teach partners but do not provide to clients.

When people try to get what I don’t offer, it makes both of us uncomfortable.

Services I offer are strictly unidirectional and I stay fully clothed.  I touch you, you don’t touch me.  I know that enjoying receiving pleasure without the element of giving it is very difficult to imagine, but learning to do so is a valuable skill that will ultimately enhance your ability to experience more pleasure with all partners.

Yup!  I can teach someone how to use a strap-on and/or play with their partner’s ass, including prostate or g-spot massage via the ass, depending on the anatomy of that partner. I can teach someone how to warm up and fuck their partner’s ass with a penis that is not strapped on. I can help you try several dildos and provide guidance in shopping for a harness. I can teach you any of the topics in these workshops.  I can teach you how to touch each other with intention and presence, with awareness of each person’s pleasure in all moments.

When my fiance and I broke up, I went on AdultFriendFinder. My profile there said explicitly that I was looking for really hot, G.Q. or Abercrombie & Fitch-looking, tall, muscular dominant men who already know how much they like having their asses played with. I got a ton of responses—many more than I expected—from attractive “normal” guys who already enjoyed ass play. I hooked up with many of them. They would say to me afterwards, “I’ve never had it done properly like THAT before!” which made me realize that I had quite a talent for it. I felt it was a bit of a shame that only hot dominant guys got to experience my talent, so when I found myself without a job, I decided to make this more widely available by charging for my time.  I provided professional non-domme ass fucking services to men for 6 years, took a hiatus for 3 years, and then, in 2016, resumed offering sessions, but in a different framework, following the ethical guidelines for my training as a somatic sex educator.  I no longer offer one-on-one strap-on sessions, I stay fully clothed, and I require that sessions have educational or healing intentions.

I’ve been playing with men’s asses since 2002.  I made my talent more widely available in April 2007 and started teaching classes at large events in February 2010. I completed professional trainings in Urban Tantra in October 2010 and in Sexological Bodywork in 2012 and 2014.

At the moment, I have various playmates of all genders, but am not in any relationships that involve spending time together on a frequent basis. Please don’t ask me if you’re my type and whether I will fuck you; it’s just insulting. And PLEASE do not send me (or any other woman!) pictures of your cock, however big and lovely it may be.

Your question assumes that there are only two genders.  For relationships, I like people all over the gender spectrum, not just the extremes.  For casual sex, I generally prefer masculine men.